Tips on dating a chinese man
Dating to marry is certainly one factor which I LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE about Chinese men.
Sorry, I don’t know if it’s because I am Bulgarian or whatever it is, but I just don’t like to date for no fricken reason OK?
But it happened, and that caused me to do endless research on cross cultural relationships, experiences of white and black women dating Asian men, speaking to friends, reading articles on Chinese culture, speaking to both Chinese male and females on dating culture and culture in general in China that helped me gained a lot of understanding on my journey with this man.
So for the purpose of trying to generalise (which of course is impossible as everything said will vary depending on the individual) here are the deductions I have come to realise from my very short and narrow experience of dating Chinese men and Chinese dating culture.
But from my own boyfriend, I found out he was quite generous.
When I lost a lot of money he simply transferred what I had lost in my account, so that I can continue traveling, just to make me happy even though he was not there with me. Secondly, when were were out on dates, he would never accept me to pay for a single thing, even though I kept insisting, but he was giving me these terrible looks, explaining how much a guy loses face if the girl pays for him.
Means that when you become bf and gf, (generally) it is considered that its possible you will marry in the future and have that in mind.
Having said that, the boyfriends concern would be to make sure he is earning enough so that he can provide for you.
With this being said, I will try to calm down a little and talk about my own experience. It was unexpected and I myself never imagined I might end up falling for a Chinese man, not because of what I saw or heard, it just didn’t cross my mind.
Clearly the process of weighing me up as a future spouse had already began.
Sweetness- I am not sure if this is about many guys but mine was certainly sweet. (And please no, that doesn’t deduct any of his masculinity points OK, good sweet guy does not equal to lacking in man power, believe me).
I mean you just need to take a look at teenagers to see how they become clones of their favourite rappers, movie stars, singers etc to see how influential the media is on what is the social norm. 3) He is boring, unadventurous, unmasculine, feminine even, and probably doesn’t like to have sex. I ask how many people who comment on the size or love making ability of Asian men/women have actually been with one? Why are there stereo types of black men, latino men, all type of men in movies generally which are negative?
With that in mind, have you noticed the negative images constantly and consistently been dished out at the expense of Asian guys? 4) This is a big one, not only is he not apparantly able to get laid and always gets turned down by chicks but quite likely he might be non sexual all together NO libido, or don’t even know how to use it. Do you know even someone as hot, talanted and handsome as Jet Li had an (I’m sure very beautiful) scene with Aaliyah kissing which was CUT from the final edit, like many other scenes in movies with Asian guys actually getting on with beautiful girls. Well, to make the white man on top feel like he is the conqueror, the most elite of the lovers in the animal kingdom.
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He didn’t explicitly say, but I just had the feeling.