Courtship instead of dating
The Problem With Dating The modern dating scene sets our sons and daughters up for repeated emotional pain, all in the name of casual fun or entertainment.
If a teen in junior high or high school is allowed to date, this pattern of making inappropriate emotional bonds — and, even, unfortunately, physical bonds — will be repeated a number of times before they reach a marriageable age.
"Everyone gets confused about the two terms — ‘dating’ and ‘courtship.’ I always tell people that it is more about the definitions than it is about the terms." Before the advent of the car, couples got to know each other in the context of their family circles, otherwise known as courting.
"Our relationship was very family-focused on both sides," she said.Marriage in Mind Swafford was a "dorm mom" at Benedictine College for three years; each year, she took care of about 142 freshmen women, often advising them on dating and relationships.She recommends that women (this goes for men as well) begin a relationship with the end in mind: "It’s important to approach every guy that you’re interested in with the knowledge that this man is either someone’s future spouse or reserved for the priesthood. ’ — then God will take care of the timing and chemistry." Prendergast added, "Is what you’re doing now in your dating and sexual behavior getting you what your heart desires — or is it just a temporary release that leaves you feeling emptier and more alone?The conjugal love of man and woman thus stands under the twofold obligation of fidelity and fecundity" (Catechism of the Catholic Church, 2363).And Pope John Paul II, in (The Role of the Christian Family in the Modern World), stated: "The very preparation for Christian marriage is itself a journey of faith.